"Be more specific." All the experts say it. They imply that belonging is a matter of finding people like you. I don't buy it. I'm the ambassador for square pegs in a world full of round holes. I know what it is not to fit. And I desire more than anything the promised solidarity these … Continue reading Where do I Fit in?
I binge a lot. I'm thinking of my niece. She's a lot like me, and I learn a lot from her. By just watching and paying attention, I better understand myself. By the time I show up and get into something, it's over. I need more space. More time to get there. It's just how … Continue reading How to Binge Like a Boss!
About 5 years ago, I survived a very dark night that saved my life. That's a story for another time. But the following Sunday, I darkened the doorstep of my local church. It was a homecoming for me. You see, I was the backslidden Christian. I was desperate. I say these things because it was … Continue reading How to Do a New Thing
True confession: Sometimes church people are rude. Am I allowed to say that? God, I hope so. I desperately long for a place where I can sort it all out. I need to make sense of the pain. I am trying very hard to move past the wounds. Are you? I am not mad. Nor … Continue reading When Church Hurts
Please allow first my sincerest apologies to those of you who witnessed my fall from the face of the earth. I've spent much of the year in fierce pursuit of an unshakable stir to unplug. To which end- finally- I'm uncovering a most valuable life lesson. It probably begins with the fact that most of … Continue reading Desperately Seeking: Really Great Rest Stops
Has the overwhelm set in? Just start somewhere. In a way, that's what I'm doing here. With these words and this task. The ideas have come and gone. So has the energy they bring with them. Can you relate? Maybe you've had it in your head to do all these things with the shiny new … Continue reading From Overwhelm to Simple Possibility
Lately I've been making an effort in ways I'd forgotten. My friend Lorrie playfully attests that she's nothing without her lipstick. I didn't get her permission to say that, but I don't think she'll mind. (You can can catch Lorrie saying fun stuff like that somewhere in the land of https://www.LorrieT.com/ That's her playground, and … Continue reading Lessons From The Lipstick Saga
I wasn't kind. In a knee-jerk flash, the words had spilled from my mouth. To bring them back was impossible. I scurried and scrambled in my failings to fix what I'd fractured. I confessed that I was worried I had embarrassed the person I spoke so carelessly to, but what's truer is that I had … Continue reading Your First Aid Kit For Surviving Embarrassment
Do you have people? This question matters, and I'll tell you why. It's for times like this. The last couple weeks, I haven't had it in me to do a lot of showing up. But I haven't had to. My people did the showing up for me. The relationships God has been building, before I … Continue reading How To Find Your People
Do you feel too reliant on other people's ideas to have great ideas of your own? I know I do. Listen. I'm a Jesus-loving, self-denying, proud-to-be-available for all the others aunt. And sister. And daughter. And friend. I love all that. I really do. But all of that keeps me really busy. And sometimes I … Continue reading Doctor’s Orders For The Busy Soul