I'm forty-one years old, and I'm single. It's time to talk about that. In 2016, I had a pretty good life in Las Vegas with my dad. I had a great job at a Pilates studio, a steady routine, and a church that I loved. My relationship with God was thriving. Imagine my surprise when … Continue reading 40 and Single… Or Ready to Mingle
You've ordered the pizza. Your snacks are ready to go. You're cozy in your jammies with your softest cuddly blanket. And the bubbly has been poured. All you need now is a movie. Great. In the mood for some romance? Something funny. A rom-com. Delightful. You begin your search. Full of hope. Buzzing with excitement … Continue reading How to Fix the Scrolling Glitch
I want to be playful, but the truth is I'm not. I want to be. I used to be. But something happened. And that part of me is lost. Sound familiar? I wrote these words and knew it was a topic I wanted to explore. But there were other tasks to tend to, and the … Continue reading 3 Reasons Why It’s Super Hard for Grown-Ups to Play 2.0
I generally create and engage SEPARATELY. They're two different modes for me. One or the other. Never together. Here's the problem: One can't thrive without the other. When I attempt to create without engagement, I lack stimulation. My work becomes stale and uninspired. But engagement falls flat when I lack fresh creative fuel. I become … Continue reading What to Do When You’re Stuck
New Year's didn't land for me. Now I know why. I'll begin by saying I had every reason for it to feel like it should have. I had a lot of little wins to celebrate. This might especially surprise you if you read "Try a New Year's Resolution Twist" because it highlights the power of … Continue reading When New Year’s is a Bust— How to Stick That Landing
′Tis the season for getting mushy. Recently, I happened upon some old love letters in an email thread. Oh my. It's a little embarrassing to tell you how little correspondence I received. And it's funny to consider how unpolished I was, as a writer. I was so young. Nevertheless, there was something special in those … Continue reading Love Letters and Secrets: Are Yours Hiding Too?
My seven year old niece LOVES the Spy Ninjas. I do NOT love the Spy Ninjas. If you don't know, the Spy Ninjas are YouTubers. But let's consider them actual people we know- in real life- just for a moment. Real people. With real personalities we either really love. Or really don't love. See, both … Continue reading Lessons Learned: Spy Ninjas, Courage and Individuality
"Be more specific." All the experts say it. They imply that belonging is a matter of finding people like you. I don't buy it. I'm the ambassador for square pegs in a world full of round holes. I know what it is not to fit. And I desire more than anything the promised solidarity these … Continue reading Where do I Fit in?
I binge a lot. I'm thinking of my niece. She's a lot like me, and I learn a lot from her. By just watching and paying attention, I better understand myself. By the time I show up and get into something, it's over. I need more space. More time to get there. It's just how … Continue reading How to Binge Like a Boss!
About 5 years ago, I survived a very dark night that saved my life. That's a story for another time. But the following Sunday, I darkened the doorstep of my local church. It was a homecoming for me. You see, I was the backslidden Christian. I was desperate. I say these things because it was … Continue reading How to Do a New Thing