3 Reasons Why It’s Super Hard for Grown-Ups to Play 2.0

I want to be playful, but the truth is I'm not. I want to be. I used to be. But something happened. And that part of me is lost. Sound familiar? I wrote these words and knew it was a topic I wanted to explore. But there were other tasks to tend to, and the … Continue reading 3 Reasons Why It’s Super Hard for Grown-Ups to Play 2.0

When New Year’s is a Bust— How to Stick That Landing

New Year's didn't land for me. Now I know why. I'll begin by saying I had every reason for it to feel like it should have. I had a lot of little wins to celebrate. This might especially surprise you if you read "Try a New Year's Resolution Twist" because it highlights the power of … Continue reading When New Year’s is a Bust— How to Stick That Landing

Lessons Learned: Spy Ninjas, Courage and Individuality

My seven year old niece LOVES the Spy Ninjas. I do NOT love the Spy Ninjas. If you don't know, the Spy Ninjas are YouTubers. But let's consider them actual people we know- in real life- just for a moment.  Real people. With real personalities we either really love. Or really don't love. See, both … Continue reading Lessons Learned: Spy Ninjas, Courage and Individuality

Where do I Fit in?

"Be more specific." All the experts say it. They imply that belonging is a matter of finding people like you. I don't buy it. I'm the ambassador for square pegs in a world full of round holes. I know what it is not to fit. And I desire more than anything the promised solidarity these … Continue reading Where do I Fit in?

How to Do a New Thing

About 5 years ago, I survived a very dark night that saved my life. That's a story for another time. But the following Sunday, I darkened the doorstep of my local church. It was a homecoming for me. You see, I was the backslidden Christian. I was desperate. I say these things because it was … Continue reading How to Do a New Thing

When Church Hurts

True confession:  Sometimes church people are rude.  Am I allowed to say that? God, I hope so. I desperately long for a place where I can sort it all out.  I need to make sense of the pain.  I am trying very hard to move past the wounds.  Are you? I am not mad.  Nor … Continue reading When Church Hurts

Your First Aid Kit For Surviving Embarrassment

I wasn't kind.  In a knee-jerk flash, the words had spilled from my mouth.  To bring them back was impossible.  I scurried and scrambled in my failings to fix what I'd fractured.  I confessed that I was worried I had embarrassed the person I spoke so carelessly to, but what's truer is that I had … Continue reading Your First Aid Kit For Surviving Embarrassment

How To Find Your People

Do you have people? This question matters, and I'll tell you why.  It's for times like this. The last couple weeks, I haven't had it in me to do a lot of showing up.  But I haven't had to.  My people did the showing up for me.  The relationships God has been building, before I … Continue reading How To Find Your People

Doctor’s Orders For The Busy Soul

Do you feel too reliant on other people's ideas to have great ideas of your own?  I know I do.  Listen.  I'm a Jesus-loving, self-denying, proud-to-be-available for all the others aunt.  And sister.  And daughter.  And friend.  I love all that.  I really do.  But all of that keeps me really busy.  And sometimes I … Continue reading Doctor’s Orders For The Busy Soul

How To Find The Invitations Hidden In Fear

The invitations are everywhere.  We've been invited to God's very best.  There is a bouncer who calls Himself fear, and he's scary.  Or she is.  At first she seems nice.  As crazy as it is, I think that we're friends.  It's a mystery to me because she never lets me in.  I guess secretly, I … Continue reading How To Find The Invitations Hidden In Fear